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To appreciate just how bizarre it is to collapse a critique of pornography into a critique of sex, think for a minute if this were a book that criticizes McDonald’s for its exploitive labor practices, its destruction of the environment, and its impact on our diet and health. Would anyone accuse the author of being anti-eating or anti-food? I suspect that most readers would separate the industry (McDonald’s) and the industrial product (hamburgers) from the act of eating, understanding that the critique was focused on the large-scale impact of the fast-food industry and not the human need to eat and the pleasure the experience of eating yields.

So, why, when I talk about pornography, is it difficult for some to understand that one can be a feminist who is unabashedly pro-sex but against the commodification and industrialization of a human desire? The answer, of course, is that pornographers have done an incredible job of selling their product as being all about sex, and not about a particular constructed version of sex that is developed within a profit-driven setting.

Gail Dines, Pornland: How Porn Has Hijacked Our Sexuality (via wretchedoftheearth)

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regarding the sex talk thing about guys bragging about loving to eat/being good at eating pussy.

englishmotherfuckerdoyouspeakit:

Look, if you really do, great. But that means:

  1. Listening to your partner with the pussy if they don’t like what you’re doing.
  2. Not getting your ego bruised if they correct you. 
  3. Not doing it AT ALL if your partner isn’t into that. 
  4. Not pressuring them into doing it. 
  5. Not making it feel like something is wrong with them if you’re ~*~*soooooo gooood~*~*~* at it and they don’t feel how you want them to feel. 
  6. Their pussy is not fucking separate from their body, mind or heart. 
  7. So before you boast you love using your fucking mouth to eat pussy
  8. make sure you’re prepared to use that 
  9. fucking mouth
  10. to 
  11. communicate. 

(Source: formerly-hilarysblog)

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I shaved again tonight.

Feels so nice to be relatively hairless on most of my body and face. Pretty sure my dysphoria in relation to my body hair’s just gotten worse with time. Which majorly conflicts with my inherent laziness, since shaving is a pain in the ass. It’ll be nice to not have to shave as often when I start HRT.

An example of my body hair dysphoria getting worse - this past weekend I spent a night at my girlfriend’s house. When we went to bed, and were gonna maybe do some naughty stuff, I started getting really uncomfortable with myself, ‘cause I hadn’t shaved for several days (and seriously, even after a day my body hair’s noticeable, especially if you feel for it), and so I ended up having to go take a shower. :P

And then when I got back I was still feeling really dysphoric (is that a word?), but now about my penis. So no penetrative sex that night, though we still had some fun regardless.

And then in the morning the dysphoria was pretty much gone and penetrative sex was an option again. An option that was most definitely taken.

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